Personal Development: Love in the Stars


Personal Development: Sarbani Sen explores planetary partnerships and love in the stars.

Because, of all the issues that come up in life, the toughest can sometimes be the couple life, or our relationships to the ‘other(s)’. In this article I want to help us get some clarity on who we are in a couple, or in a group, and discuss some tools on how to get back to reason when it comes to over-emotional subjects with the significant other half.

From an astrological point of view, there are various aspects to check in a couple’s chart. For example, we could start with where is  his Venus (the kind of woman he likes)? In which astrological house does she evolve (the kind of universe we’ll be swimming in)? If we are a woman, what sign is our Mars? If it’s a fiery Mars (Aries, Sagi, Leo) then it means we constantly look for a dominant man, someone who is spontaneous and straightforward, someone that likes to take risks.

If our Mars is rather earthy (Taurus, Virgo, Capri) then we nurture needs of security, of routine, of a lush worldly material life. If he’s in the sign of Air (Aquarius, Gemini or Libra) then we’re more into a light affair, something fun and creative, constantly in movement. Water (Pisces, Cancer or Scorpio) will be a search for deeper connection, deeper meaning, very emotional without being tartly.

The Enneagram is another brilliant tool that can give us some clues on understanding the other, on why the hell is he behaving like that? Well because he has a base 7, so his goal will be this and that. At the end of the day, the way we behave and interact is all about education and childhood strategies.From a romantic point of view, we could ask ourselves what is romance? What are all the points of view we have on romance? What are the images haunting us as soon as we meet someone? What are all the expectations we have regarding what he should say and do?

How many times do we argue because he/she did not use the perfect wording that we were expecting? For us, in our couple life, it happens all the time. I have an overwhelmed Venus position in Pisces, which makes me very demanding. I have high expectations in Love and see it almost as a spiritual thing. I need deep connection (Pisces, remember?) at all times. He, on the other hand, has a Venus – in conjunction with Sun – in Taurus (an earthlier version of love).

These animals don’t like to be pushed or criticized. His is a sweet temper as long as words flow like honey to his ears. (Enhanced by a Moon in Libra, matters of beauty, harmony, justice). I have a Moon in Aries (fiery, outspoken, direct, abrupt, ready to fight and actually quite stimulated by it). After 9 years, I feel we’ve learned!