Coaching advice: Learn how to change your life


In our latest coaching advice article International Speaker, Peak Performance Trainer and Business Mentor Arnon Barnes wants you to strengthen your roots. Sometimes it takes us ten years to get to that one year that will completely change our life.

Have you ever researched how bamboo grows? Bamboo grows as follows; the seeds are sown into the soil. Then the rain comes, and it feeds the seeds and the sun shines, and it feeds the seeds. And what happens after one year? Nothing! For years, rain and sun comes and nothing. Nothing happens. Three years maybe, sometimes four years and all of a sudden what happens? A tiny sprout comes out of the ground and within a matter of weeks all of a sudden, BOOM this massive bamboo comes out of the ground, almost shooting up. So, what’s been happening all this time?

The bamboo has been strengthening its roots. Strengthening its arms under the ground, repairing and building and repairing and building. Until it’s so strong it can just explode up out of the ground and nothing can hold it back.

Today, I will share with you the three lists I make every year again, to get to that one year that will turn my life, my business, my wealth around. Here are my secrets to repairing and building and strengthening my roots.

Before I tell you the first thing I do, I want you to think back to when you were a child maybe, and it was your birthday. And your parents, friends or family brought out a cake. You stood in front of this beautiful cake and everybody was around you, cheering you on. Candles were lit, and as you were getting ready to blow them out and make your wish, somebody said to you: “Don’t tell anybody your wish, or it won’t come true!” I must admit, knowing what I know now, that is by far the dumbest thing I have ever heard. And, by the way, I’ve been guilty of saying that in the past as well.

We’ve been conditioned from a young age not to share our desires, to keep what we want to ourselves. So, why is it so dumb to not share our wish? Imagine being a kid and your dream is that you want a new bicycle. When you don’t tell anyone. When you don’t bring it out into the world. How’s it going to manifest? How is your wish going to become a reality when nobody knows about it?

This brings me to the first thing I do every year. I write a list of all the things I want, and I share it with all the people around me.

COACHING ADVICE ARNON BARNS CHANGE YOUR LIFE 2The second thing I do is make another list with everything I don’t want. Now we don’t want to put too much energy into this because we don’t want to attract this. But we must acknowledge and learn from the situations or things we have attracted and created in our lives that no longer serve us. So, what is a non-negotiable for you? Whatever it is, you can set a deadline for yourself and commit to having this resolved by that specific date.

Many, many years ago there was a young boy with a very sick mother. On one of her last days on this earth she called him to her and said: “Abe come here.” And young Abe came over and asked her if she was okay? She looked her son straight into his eyes and she said: “Abe, become someone.” And those were the last words that Abraham Lincoln heard from his mother.

And that is the home run. This is probably the most important list out of the lists I make every year.

Who do I have to become?
When you want to generate more income, you have to become more. When you want to have that the loving relationship in your life, you have to become more. When you want to help people, create a better business, make more money, have more fun. Whatever it is you want, it all comes down to looking inside and answering the question: “Who do I need to become?” When you want to get results that you’ve never gotten before, it is most likely that you have to do things you’ve never done before. Which means you need to become someone you’ve never been before.

Always remember that it takes time for desires to manifest. It takes time for things to change.

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