Personal development: Ask yourself ‘Who is driving the car?’


In our latest personal development article International Speaker, Peak Performance Trainer and Business Mentor Arnon Barnes asks us to guard against being our own worst enemies.

One of the greatest blessings in my life is having the opportunity to work with so many amazing people. Especially entrepreneurs and business leaders from all over the world. I have had the pleasure of witnessing the rise of many entrepreneurs. People who started out from the bottom and slowly but surely grew into a successful multi-million Euro business, creating jobs and employing hundreds of people. I have also witnessed ‘buy-outs’ of multi-million Euro businesses and then these businesses being turned into larger hundred million Euro monsters with thousands of employees globally. And the question is always the same: “How did they do it?”

From my many years of being an entrepreneur and having built several successful businesses and selling them, to coaching others and helping them create their own entrepreneurial legacies, one thing is very apparent in the realm of achieving ‘high levels of success’. And that is…

It’s got nothing to do with your product or your service. One of the most critical factors behind these ‘high achiever’s success stories’ is actually, who is driving the car? You read that correctly. Yes! Who is behind the wheel and driving the business?

So, who is behind your wheel of success? The reason I provoke this question is because the truth is most people are their own worst enemies. Don’t get me wrong now, I’m not talking about it in an evil way. I am referring to ‘worst enemy’ as more like a term you might be more familiar with called ‘self-sabotage’.

My experience tells me that self-sabotage and self-doubt are high up on the greatest success killers list. And because of it so many people (not you of course) end up playing the game of life small and playing it safe. The reality is whether you believe it or not, you were destined for great things. You have within you everything you need to succeed. The only question is: ‘Are you willing to take the first step?’ Most people are so stuck because all they focus on is step 13 and because they focus on step number 13 that’s what stops most of them from taking action to begin with. Instead, just focus on the first step. And ask yourself ‘what is my first step here that I need to take right now that will eventually lead me to achieve that’? As cheesy as this sounds, all great journeys start with a first step.