Personal Development: Reflections on Love


There is always a disturbing element that wants to destroy our wholeness and peace, our feelings of love. It is as if we have a pin that we use to prick a hole in our love balloon. Whenever our thoughts of ‘less than’ and ‘not good enough’ surface in our minds, the pink air evaporates quickly. The mind, or the ego, is an expert at piercing our love balloons and keeping us suffering, keeping us separated from love. The ego is our pin. And love is our balloon. We all have one of each.

Looking at it in this light, one could imagine how wonderful the world would be if we all just threw away our pins. Then the only thing left on this earth would be loving balloons, surfacing the planet. Wow, then the world would really be pink and fluffy. Everybody would just be floating together, high in the sky. Letting the air we breathe lift us to higher grounds and letting the sun shine on our whole and heart-centred beings. There would be no threats to our balloons. In that reality, we would be able to keep the feeling of wholeness at all times.

Now, this is difficult for us as human beings, because we need our egos to keep us safe. The pin we carry is there for a reason, it is part of our survival mechanism. It is the ego that keeps us from not walking out into the street without looking. It is the ego that protects us and guards us from dangers. The ego is the sword we can protect and defend ourselves with.

But it is also the one thing that keeps us from feeling whole and feeling love. The ego is an expert at suffering, as it keeps us separated from the wholeness. But we can change the ego’s role into being the friend that gently reminds us that we are not where we are supposed to be, with our thoughts and our feelings. Let it be the light that illuminates how far from the love you are.

When you feel bad and separated, let the discomfort be a sign of how far away from your essence you have travelled. Each time the ego speaks thoughts of separation, ring the bells of love. Bring yourself back to wholeness as often as you can. Always bring yourself back to love. Let it be a bell that tells you that you are in the wrong place.

When you feel bad and separated, it is very simple. You feel this way because your entire being is yelling at you: “You are in the wrong place!” It is as if your whole being say: “Do I need to make you feel even worse before you understand that you are not where you are supposed to be?” You feel bad because you are thinking thoughts in discordance with the truth of who you are: you are love, and love doesn’t separate, love unites.

Your soul knows the truth of who you are and it is whispering to you to wake up from the illusion of separation of yourself and others. It is telling you to embrace your essence, it is telling you to embrace love.

Be love. Together.