Personal Development: Shine A Light On Love


Personal Development: Intuitive healer and therapist Katarina Winslow, suggests we shine a light on love.

Imagining all the lit candles on our St Valentine tables, I can’t help thinking of the Swedish song that goes, ‘Light a candle and let it burn…’, encouraging us to come together in love. If lighting a candle and letting it burn isn’t representative of love, I don’t know what is. And maybe the ‘let it burn’ part is more important right now than the ignition – to never extinguish the lights in our hearts. There is a candle burning inside each one of us. No matter how many layers of shaded illusions a person has collected throughout life, there is a light deep within each one of us.

To safeguard that light, to never blow out the flame that is the light within you is to protect love. To always turn your face towards the sun, to be like a sunflower. To perceive the love in life, the love in another, and the love in you. To encourage the life of the flame, and to breathe oxygen into its longevity. To treasure the joy of the fire and ignite it again and again when it gets shadowed.

Love is not only a state of being, but it is also an act of benevolence towards life itself and care for self and others. It is, above all, a conscious act of safeguarding your own inner light. And for love to be pure and definitely real, we all need to illuminate the love of life together, to magnify the radiance to a universal reach. We need to recognise the light in one another, to understand that you are me, and I am you. That is what the world is demanding of us at this time in history if we want to save humanity from its own destruction. We are asked to throw light on all that is fake, divided, dark and corrupted.

Universal love is not that much different from personal and intimate love, it is there to cast a light on the shadows. In personal love and in helping a person to heal him or herself, you start out by looking at their shadows. As a healer and a therapist, you see an emotionally and psychologically wounded person, no matter what the distress they are in, as a whole human being. You know and safeguard the circle of love that the person is, even if they themselves fail to see it. To perceive a whole and unique human being is the starting point to help a person heal. In the end, the state a person is in depends on the colour of the tinted glasses they are wearing. How you feel depends on through what illusionary veil you see the world.

You could say that a person’s wounds are like dark spots on a beautiful unity called love. So, as a healer, you throw light on the shadows, the dark places a person is carrying so that there is only light. When the wounded parts, the dark spots, the fear, the trauma, the separation have been enlightened, there is only love left, only our essence. In psychology, just as in love, it helps to see a person as a unity of a definite whole, being aware that it is only some parts that are in the shade.