Anna Boroshok offers five actionable techniques to deal with fear – welcome fear and move mountains!
Understand what holds you back. There could be a whole multitude of reasons that trigger fear in you: some episodes that happened in your past, mentality that was shaped through the years, influence of people who surround you. How do you identify which one is yours? You need to go into your unconscious to understand yourself better and identify the factors that prevent you from acting at your full potential.
Here is an exercise for you. Find a calm place where no one will bother you. Sit down, close your eyes and take five deep breaths. Now, imagine that you are inside your brain. There isa lift in front of you. Enter it and go seven levels down. When you arrive you will see a corridorand the door at the end of it. Behind that door you will find your unconscious self. While you walk to the door, try to see what you feel. Is it easy or difficult to walk towards yourself? Are you afraid of opening the door? If yes, why?
Now, open the door. What do you see? Is it a dark or bright room? Do you see yourself in there? How do you look? What surrounds your unconscious self? Beware that you can find yourself in a very poor state, and your unconscious self will first of all refuse to communicate. In that case you need to repeat the exercise over and over again until you can hug yourself, connect to yourself and start talking. You will be surprised how many answers your unconscious self can give you to the questions that were torturing you for years.
Ask yourself about what fears you have and why, what stops you on the way to your ambitions? If you find out that you have a trauma, you need to accept it and view it as a learning moment that made you wiser. Beware that you will not solve your fear problems with one exercise – it is supposed to connect you to your unconscious self and give you further directions. Simply trust yourself and take the necessary steps your unconscious self tells you to do. Continue working on this exercise. Ifyou want to properly work on it, read The Dark Side of Light Chasers: Reclaiming your power, creativity, brilliance, and dreams by Debbie Ford.
2. Know that fear is a natural reaction to danger which might not even exist. It goes back to prehistoric times when we had to survive in very harsh conditions. Fear was a mobilizing force to keep us alive amongst roaring beasts of enormous sizes and sharp teeth. These times have passed but our brain preserved the same mechanisms to make us ready to freeze, run or attack. When you are mindful about it, it is easier to reason with your fear. Next time you feel it take over your control, talk to your fear. Imagine that it as a living being and tell it: “I know you are trying to protect me, but there is nothing to be afraid of. Look, take my hand, let’s go and do it together.”
“Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.” – Samuel Beckett