Personal Development: Welcome Fear And Move Mountains


3. Don’t overthink and decompose. Overthinking is our worst enemy because we start complicating our vision, get scared and never start doing what we dream about. It is particularly intrinsic to women. We try to solve all the problems well ahead before they actually happen (if happen at all). You need to learn to be mindful about that. Whenever you feel you are stuck, think about what exactly halters your progress. If it is something planned too well ahead, stop thinking about it and focus on something that could be done now to bring you there. If you are stuck with a current issue, decompose.

What does it mean? If you procrastinate with a task, most probably it means that your brain can’t figure out where to start. For example, you need to hold your first online webinar but you keep on procrastinating. You are scared of something but don’t even know what exactly. Decompose your big elephant into small parts: what do I need for an online workshop? Stable connection, online platform, content, anything else? Identify where you are stuck. For example, if you don’t have a stable connection, what can you do? Buy a sim-card, find avenue with stable connection, etc. Drill until you know what to do and a problem is solved.

4. Put the weight of fear on the shoulders of Universe, God or whatever you believe in. This is a very powerful exercise but to do it, you really need to believe into a power wiser than you that knows what is best for you and takes care of each step you take. For some people it will be the Universe, for some God, for some Allah.

Whenever you are facing a stressful situation which stresses you a lot, for example, you have to present at a conference with 100+ audience and you are paralyzed by fear thinking and overthinking about how it will go and how you should stand, behave and speak to shine like a star. What if you put the burden of all this pressure on a power much stronger and wiser than you are? Let’s take the Universe for this exercise. Imagine that you literally take this burden off your shoulders and put it on the shoulders of the Universe. The Universe in its turn is more than happy to take care of you, because it knows better than you what is your life passage and what to do, so you would achieve it. Trust it, and you will succeed.

“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” — WinstonChurchill

5. View every failure as a next step to success. If you think that you shouldn’t fail, you will hardly ever succeed. You need to shift your mind into understanding that each failure is the next step to your success. Each failure teaches you something new, makes you stronger, wiser, and tougher. Did you know that Stephen King received so many rejection letters for Carrie that he kept them all on a spike in his bedroom? Have you heard that Henry Ford went bankrupt twice before he established Ford Motors? Thomas Edison’s teachers said he was “too stupid to learn anything.” He was fired from his first two jobs for being “non-productive.” As an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts atinventing the light bulb. When a reporter asked, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”Remember that “Winners are not people who never fail but people who never quit.” – Edwin Louis Cole.

In times of uncertainty, remember: fortune favours the brave. 

Anna Boroshok – Digital strategist at Emakina – Co-founder of Fearless Female Founders