Personal Development: What Is Healing?


Intuitive healer and therapist Katarina Winslow asks: What is healing?

I remember about ten years ago, when my healing gift began to get acknowledged, people said that maybe I shouldn’t use the word ‘healing’ – people will be scared off. It was well-intentioned; they wanted more people to understand how I could help and guide them.

I was a bit reluctant to take people’s advice, but I like to believe that I still listened and was moderate in using this, for some reason, negatively charged word ‘healing’. It is a paradox that we live in a world where a word that stands for the process of making or becoming sound and healthy again is alienating and shameful.

Today, I am grateful that the word healing has become accepted by the establishment and even trendy to talk about. Thanks to the healing gift I was given, I did not only meet resistance, but I also had some time to reflect over what healing actually is. And the words that came to me to sum up what healing is can be expressed in its purest form as: “Healing is the cleansing of the illusion that you are anything but love.”

Last spring, I spoke at a big consciousness gathering in Caen, France, at the eDays (Evolution Days), and, just before the opening of the doors, a woman asked me: “What is healing, actually?” There and then, I had to think again and to squeeze the essence out of what healing really is. Wayne W. Dyer said: “When you squeeze an orange, you’ll always get orange juice to come out. What comes out is what’s inside. The same logic applies to you: when someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, or says something unflattering or critical, out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, tension, depression, or anxiety – that is what’s inside. If love and joy are what you want to give and receive, change your life by changing what’s inside.”

With this in mind, you could say that if healing had happened to you, when you squeeze
yourself what would come out would be ‘the truth’. The most absolute and most beautiful truth of You. That is, when you have healed yourself the one thing still standing is love, because it is the truth of who you are. You are love at the core of your being, no matter how many wounded layers you are walking around with in life: anger, bitterness, fear, emotional and physical pain, depression, sadness and remorse. Behind it all, there is the most beautiful part of you: love.

You just need to heal from the thorns of life to be able to reconnect with your authentic nature, and that is what healing is. Healing is to remember who you truly are and let go of the pain you carry so that you can be free of any imposed way of being, any false belief of self. Things such as ‘I am not good enough’, ‘I am not intelligent enough’, ‘I am not beautiful enough’, or ‘I am not good at anything’. The list of what kind of false beliefs we can collect is endless, due to our parents, partners, teachers, friends, society and even colleagues. We are all wounded and coloured by the painful experiences we have suffered – healing is to let go of the little ‘black box’ of pain in our subconsciousness. Open it up and look at the truth of your pain, the truth about yourself, the truth of your family, the truth about your negative psychological patterns that are making life less than it could and should be. Healing is to open yourself to the fact that life is beautiful, and so are you.

To sum it up, when you strip off all the negative illusions that you have about life and yourself, you are left with the truth, however painful the truth might be, for example, if you have been subjected to deceit, betrayal, abuse or violence. Behind it all, there is still the truth of you as pure love, and when you know that truth, you also know that in reconnecting with the truth of you, you no longer want to carry your pain and your burdens. In loving yourself, you make the inflicted layers of pain fall to the ground as you rise from the ashes as a pure being of unconditional love. The kind of unconditional love that Mother Earth has for all, feeding us and loving us, no matter what.